spank your kids-not!

Kids Who Get Spanked May Have Lower IQs

Studies Show Link Between Getting Spanked and Poorer Scores on Intelligence Tests
By Salynn BoylesWebMD Health News

Reviewed By Louise Chang, MD

Sept. 24, 2009 -- Parents who spare the rod just might end up with smarter kids.
Two new studies suggest that children who are spanked have lower IQs than children who aren't, regardless of where they live.
In one study, researchers analyzed the intelligence scores of roughly 1,500 children in the U.S. who took part in the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth. They found that these scores were slightly lower among children whose mothers reported using spanking as a form of discipline.
In the other study, national average IQ scores were found to be lower in countries where spanking is common.
The research was led by University of New Hampshire sociologist Murray A. Straus, PhD, who has studied the impact of corporal punishment on child development for decades. He is a vocal opponent of the practice.
Straus was scheduled to present his findings Friday in San Diego at the 14th International Conference on Violence, Abuse and Trauma.
"The best kept secret of American child psychology is that kids who are not spanked are the best behaved and do the best in life," he tells WebMD. "You won't find that in a single child development textbook, but it is true."

aku jarang2 kena pukul.sepanjang hidup ni, rasa2nya dlm 2 or 3 kali je.tu pun lembut2 je.IQ aku tinggi kah?hehe..ntahle.yang pasti aku tak pass IQ test nak g adelaide uni 2 tahun lepas!heee~

cinta

teringat zaman kecik2 dulu..semua orang mabuk nak bercinta.sometimes, when i come to think about it, it makes me laugh.how can little kids(or growing teenagers) indulge so much in love?dulu2 dtg sekolah tak abes2 ingat boyfriend, tulis2 surat(dulu2 takde phone), masa rehat dating2 tepi kantin(aku tak, aku pengawas.hehe)main tarik2 rambut ngn sape yg kacau kita nye pakwe(again, aku takpenah buat.ok?), yg paling common skali, balik skolah sama2(ni penah=P).those days are memorable.ada yg fun smpai tanak lupa, ada yg takmau ingat lagi..skrg tgk budak2 bercinta, rasa nak termuntah..tp dulu2 aku pun sama, tak sedar diri btl.

but when i reach adulthood, love is never for fun anymore.love is not something that we ask, it is something that comes when we least expecting it.memang ramai lagi orang yg sibuk nak carik boyfriend, carik jodoh, ada jgk yg tanak langsung ada boyfriend, tanak mengelakkan terjebak.to have or not to have boyfriend, is not an issue.bila takde boyfriend(or gf) takpayah rasa risau takde jodoh, the time will come. tapi, for those yg anti dgn 'couple2' thingy ni, kena faham,love is not smething that u can just erase or delete. love remains though a relationship does not lasts.to seperate two loving souls is mean.hanya ada satu jalan, nikah.its not always readily possible..ada byk tanggungjawab, and expectations from others.yg perempuan kena faham, how hard things can be for a man to get maried.diorang yg rasa beban, bkn kita.so, nak tak nak, we have to understand.and in the time being, menjaga diri sebelum bernikah(tough part, huh?)

love is not about the fun.though it was before.for me, loving who i love now, is not always easy.it is at the same time fun, but i dont want to love for the sake of the fun and happiness it brings.we have to bear with the hardship that comes along with it.i cherish every happiness, and every hardship love has to offer.


love is not a major thing in life.but still, we need it as a complementary. love is not about going out together, celebrating anniversaries, expressing love in facebook etc etc.love is about companionship.for me, if i have loved the right one, do not ever turn back. take the relationship seriously.i have hurt some people in my life, and i regret that.i do.but i am thankful for it has end my search of true love, and now, i have found (i hope) the true love.

i am really thankful for the fact that we have survived the hardships of love for years now. u r a great person, even there are times i cannot stand u, i am thankful for that. i dont want u to be anyone else but u.i want u to know, i have never taken into account what u have, or what u dont have when i decided to love u.but, because of who you are.i dont love you because of u r hot, or goodlooking(if u really are la), i never cared about that at all.i will even love u the same(or more) when u turn 60, or 70 or 80, when u hv that deep wrinkles on ur face.

this is how love should always be.

akhirat dan duniawi

macam2 perangai orang masa bulan ramadhan.i dont want to say i am satisfied with the past ramadhan, i still have to improve a lot.lagi2 la masa bulan puasa hari tu, i was busy in preparing for the Malay Cultural Week theater next week(i am one of the crew).mmg aa mcm teater biasa2 je.. nama pun bdk IMU yg berlakon..tapi tak semestinya takde standard.so, sbb dah sign up, nak tak nak,it is my obligation and responsibility to show up an d buat keje.even though terpaksa mengorbankan jemaah tarawih kat surau.bkn tak blh buat sorg2 or dgn kawan2 kat umah.bkn wajib buat 8rakaat..buatla 2 je pun, asalkan ikhlas.tapi ada jgk org yg fkr, kalau tak g tarawih tu, cm dosa besar sangat..mmgla, kalau compare ngn lepak mall, seganla kot, orang g surau, kte g lepak2 plak. tapi bagi aku la..tarawih berbanding ngn keje, yang dah diamanahkan dan melibatkan ramai orang, dah kira wajib kita pegi buat keje tu, sbb tanak sshkn orang lain. karang sape2 marah kat kita dapat dosa free je.so, tak pegi tarawih kat surau ni bknla perkara besar sgt, selagi dia tak g buat bende2 tak berapa nak best di bulan puasa.

taktau la nape aku nak ckp pasal ni, tp mcm terpanggil2 nak tulis.
orang kata, kalau nak jd alim, warak, mst solat, buat amalan2 sunat2, tadarus quran, g ceramah,pakai jubah longgar2, or apa2la yg berkaitan dgn agama.mmg betul.tak dinafikan.tula yang sebaik2nya.tapi, kalau seseorang tu tak jd perfect mcmtu, tak semestinya dia kufur, or berdosa.and bagi aku, menegakkan agama, bukan dari segi agama semata2.hidup ni as a whole perlu dikira sebagai agama. as in, bkn perkara2 fardhu, beribadat siang malam je yg Allah nampak, yg Allah kira.tp ada jgk benda duniawi yg perlu diambil kira. kalau la solat siang malam, tp lambat bangun g kerja (or class), tuhan senang hati ke?tu lagi la kira berdosa sbb dah membuat dosa sesama manusia. amanah kita sbg pekerja, pelajar(lg2 yg sponsored)sangat besar.tak blh la nak fkr solat 24jam tp kita tak kesah pasal reputasi sbg pelajar muslim. belajar tu wajib.belajar di atas nama islam adalah jihad. taknak la nanti orang kata,kata islam, tapi mundur.aku mmg malu kalau dlm PBL aku ada pelajar melayu yg datang lambat, melayu la yg ponteng.sbb dlm PBL, ada lbh kurang 3 pelajar melayu je, out of 10 or 11.so, nampak sgtla kan kalau ada yg kurang.tp mmg slalu mcmtu la, melayu la yg ponteng, melayu la yang fail.nak tak nak, nama agama sekali yg malu.aku kagum bila yani cerita pasal sesetengah student2 melayu kat uniten(if im not mistaken).dgn tudung litup, pgg quran all the time, tp CGPA takde yg kurang 3.9.mcmtu la islam yg sepatutnya.lengkap.bukan warak beribadah semata, tp cemerlang dunia akhirat.
lastly, aku bukan kata aku ni warak or hebat gle std.dua2 pun tak rasanya.tp cukupla seiringkan agama dan duniawi.lebihkan agama lagi bagus, tp jgn tinggalkan kewajipan duniawi.
orang melayu islam tak boleh jadi malas.ni punca kelemahan dan kenunduran kita!

freakin IMU

i sometimes feel like regretting being into IMU.we have obviously less class/day compared to the other medical schools.and NO TUTORIALS, okay?so, we are supposed to do lots of self learning, and to do that, it requires a lot of motivation.yela, at our very own sweet free time, what do we tend to do 1st?mstla bukak facebook jap, blogging jap.(akulah mangsa facebook terbaru.walaupun takdela menarik sgt fb ni)and studies come last..ok coming back to the issue here, dahla class sikit sgt,it is like 2 hours a day, clinical skills session once a week, PBL twice a week, n now they want to implement a system of e-learning where they put some sort of articulated lectures on net, and mansuhkan classes.kalau cmtu WHATS THE POINT OF PAYING A BLOODY SUM OF 28k PER SEMESTER, WHICH TOTALS UP TO ABOUT 300k FOR THE WHOLE 5 FREAKING YEARS IN IMU?? just to get lecture notes WHICH WE HAVE TO PRINT OURSELVES is it?their reason is, some of the students complain that they do not need lectures to succeed.dah camtu kau je la yang takyah datang lecture.i pity the students whom their parents pay for their fees, because they are not getting what their money worth.i am a bit less unfortunate la, because i am sponsored by the government, and tak terasa sangat beban student yg self sponsor.tapi memang ini tak patut terjadi di universiti taraf antarabangsa!

outing.

out to town today..went to sogo, with raiha, and my two little brothers.saje shopping2 raya before bz, selagi ada masa..i decided to go on weekdays to avoid the crowd.of course sogo was crowded like all the time, but today it was not so.still boleh shopping tanpa sebarang physical contact dgn oranglain.teman adik2 carik baju2 raya.ssh nak teman diorang.taste lg tinggi dr aku.patutla mama malas nak teman diorang.budak2 lelaki sedang membesar. mula2 pegi jln TAR (its sad that dat ppl are calling it in short, sbb nama Tunku sdh takde lg disebut pada nama jln tu).nak beli telekung baru yg cun2.kedai2 dia banyak, n they are all selling the same things.i wandered around, tgk2 kat kedai2 tu before beli.once i belek2, dorang dah mcm bagi discount mcm2, pastu blm ckp pape lg dah nak amek bag plastik.n they were practically begging me not to go and buy the telekung straight away from their stall.kesian sangat....i feel like buying things from all of them.bayangkanla, too little customers, and tooo many similar stalls, and similar stuffs!so imagine how they fight for customers.i always wonder why ppl tend to open similar kind of businesses eg fruit stalls, fabric store, etc etc too close to each other? are they all allocated to the same business venue by some authorities,perhaps?i dunno.i know nothing about business.next, midvalley.my 2nd brother wanted to buy his things at topman. his justification was, kat situ senang nak carik slim, tightfitting shirt.makin besar, makin kecik baju diorang.adik paling last belum terikut2 abang2 dia lagi, but sooner or later i bet he will.hehe.takpela, aku pun sama, lagi teruk.dah membesar, saiz baju tak besar2.tapi aku tak la pakai tightfitting shirt.at least not too tight.sedang2 sahaja.segan okey.but i'll try to improve the way i present myself, and membesarkan, not to forget memanjangkan saiz baju2 di masa akn datang.insyaallah.bila sampai rumah, kaki sangat sakit (cos i was sooo bijak to wear heels just because they matched the color of my dress the best).padan muka.bila balik rumah, lepak2 a while, and went straight to class.pathology of pituitary.nasib baik tak tido.so kesimpulannya..takde kesimpulan.bye2 for now.

2nd day of semester 4

as expected, things move at a very fast pace. 2 days over, but the workload is dreadful.finished CSU wk 1 (good!) and diagnostic english test. class today started at 415 and ended at 630.when we reached pakcik amir's stall, there is not much left.tak seronok.but im glad that today i did not experience any kind of headache which i usually have in evenings(normally it happens when i have things until evening, or excessive walk or going to malls the whole day or overcrowding).i planned to start revising early today, however its the other way round.im still sitting here in front of this stupid screen, facebooking.i know this would happen.i was so glad that friendster has became obsolete(so that i can reduce the temptation to go online) until i started facebooking.bahaya ni.better stop.im stopping now.tata~

sensitive sket blh takk??

tadi,masa bukak puasa, tertengokla cerita 3R kat tv3.frankly i dont really like that show.and today ada statu benda lagi yg ak tak berapa puas hati ngn cte tu.dulu..few episodes back(tu pun tertengok jgk) ada la surat dari pembaca punya segment.soalan dia cmnila.."kak, saya berusia 17 tahun yadaa yadaa..blh kah saya dan pasangan saya melakukan hubungan seks?"pastu that so-called motivator(kak azah-no title)ckpla.."kalau blh jangan laa..sbb nanti adik dpt STD..and nanti kalau mengandung siapa yang susah...tunggu la selepas kahwin ye?"and hari ni plak ada short sketch, bf dia ckp"sayang2, kte kan dah jadi couple almost 6 months kan...ape kata kte buat sth lebih intimate lagi?"..then gf dia kata(n btw, dorg ni skolah lagi).."eh,blhke?kalau mengandung cmne??"...pastu bf dia reply.."ala first time tak mengandung punye"(bodoh jgk dua ekor ni)pastu there was this pakar who clarified that every time buat hubungan seks boleh mengandung, provided that perempuan tu subur time tu..and after that terus couple tu decided to wait until they get married(if only).

so kesimpulannya..takde sorang or sekali pun dalam cte tu ckp buat seks sebelum kahwin tu haram.cam norm je.norm ke tak, haram tetap haram.dosa ttp dosa, bdk tadika pun tau..cte tu cm tak sensitive. n terlalu moden..tak sesuai jadi talk show untuk remaja.oke?harap maklum.

p/s ada bnyk jgk cte yg terlalu moden yang aku menyampah.mentang2 muka cm mat salleh sket dah tak ingat root.padahal nama cm jawa.