spank your kids-not!

Kids Who Get Spanked May Have Lower IQs

Studies Show Link Between Getting Spanked and Poorer Scores on Intelligence Tests
By Salynn BoylesWebMD Health News

Reviewed By Louise Chang, MD

Sept. 24, 2009 -- Parents who spare the rod just might end up with smarter kids.
Two new studies suggest that children who are spanked have lower IQs than children who aren't, regardless of where they live.
In one study, researchers analyzed the intelligence scores of roughly 1,500 children in the U.S. who took part in the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth. They found that these scores were slightly lower among children whose mothers reported using spanking as a form of discipline.
In the other study, national average IQ scores were found to be lower in countries where spanking is common.
The research was led by University of New Hampshire sociologist Murray A. Straus, PhD, who has studied the impact of corporal punishment on child development for decades. He is a vocal opponent of the practice.
Straus was scheduled to present his findings Friday in San Diego at the 14th International Conference on Violence, Abuse and Trauma.
"The best kept secret of American child psychology is that kids who are not spanked are the best behaved and do the best in life," he tells WebMD. "You won't find that in a single child development textbook, but it is true."

aku jarang2 kena pukul.sepanjang hidup ni, rasa2nya dlm 2 or 3 kali je.tu pun lembut2 je.IQ aku tinggi kah?hehe..ntahle.yang pasti aku tak pass IQ test nak g adelaide uni 2 tahun lepas!heee~

cinta

teringat zaman kecik2 dulu..semua orang mabuk nak bercinta.sometimes, when i come to think about it, it makes me laugh.how can little kids(or growing teenagers) indulge so much in love?dulu2 dtg sekolah tak abes2 ingat boyfriend, tulis2 surat(dulu2 takde phone), masa rehat dating2 tepi kantin(aku tak, aku pengawas.hehe)main tarik2 rambut ngn sape yg kacau kita nye pakwe(again, aku takpenah buat.ok?), yg paling common skali, balik skolah sama2(ni penah=P).those days are memorable.ada yg fun smpai tanak lupa, ada yg takmau ingat lagi..skrg tgk budak2 bercinta, rasa nak termuntah..tp dulu2 aku pun sama, tak sedar diri btl.

but when i reach adulthood, love is never for fun anymore.love is not something that we ask, it is something that comes when we least expecting it.memang ramai lagi orang yg sibuk nak carik boyfriend, carik jodoh, ada jgk yg tanak langsung ada boyfriend, tanak mengelakkan terjebak.to have or not to have boyfriend, is not an issue.bila takde boyfriend(or gf) takpayah rasa risau takde jodoh, the time will come. tapi, for those yg anti dgn 'couple2' thingy ni, kena faham,love is not smething that u can just erase or delete. love remains though a relationship does not lasts.to seperate two loving souls is mean.hanya ada satu jalan, nikah.its not always readily possible..ada byk tanggungjawab, and expectations from others.yg perempuan kena faham, how hard things can be for a man to get maried.diorang yg rasa beban, bkn kita.so, nak tak nak, we have to understand.and in the time being, menjaga diri sebelum bernikah(tough part, huh?)

love is not about the fun.though it was before.for me, loving who i love now, is not always easy.it is at the same time fun, but i dont want to love for the sake of the fun and happiness it brings.we have to bear with the hardship that comes along with it.i cherish every happiness, and every hardship love has to offer.


love is not a major thing in life.but still, we need it as a complementary. love is not about going out together, celebrating anniversaries, expressing love in facebook etc etc.love is about companionship.for me, if i have loved the right one, do not ever turn back. take the relationship seriously.i have hurt some people in my life, and i regret that.i do.but i am thankful for it has end my search of true love, and now, i have found (i hope) the true love.

i am really thankful for the fact that we have survived the hardships of love for years now. u r a great person, even there are times i cannot stand u, i am thankful for that. i dont want u to be anyone else but u.i want u to know, i have never taken into account what u have, or what u dont have when i decided to love u.but, because of who you are.i dont love you because of u r hot, or goodlooking(if u really are la), i never cared about that at all.i will even love u the same(or more) when u turn 60, or 70 or 80, when u hv that deep wrinkles on ur face.

this is how love should always be.

akhirat dan duniawi

macam2 perangai orang masa bulan ramadhan.i dont want to say i am satisfied with the past ramadhan, i still have to improve a lot.lagi2 la masa bulan puasa hari tu, i was busy in preparing for the Malay Cultural Week theater next week(i am one of the crew).mmg aa mcm teater biasa2 je.. nama pun bdk IMU yg berlakon..tapi tak semestinya takde standard.so, sbb dah sign up, nak tak nak,it is my obligation and responsibility to show up an d buat keje.even though terpaksa mengorbankan jemaah tarawih kat surau.bkn tak blh buat sorg2 or dgn kawan2 kat umah.bkn wajib buat 8rakaat..buatla 2 je pun, asalkan ikhlas.tapi ada jgk org yg fkr, kalau tak g tarawih tu, cm dosa besar sangat..mmgla, kalau compare ngn lepak mall, seganla kot, orang g surau, kte g lepak2 plak. tapi bagi aku la..tarawih berbanding ngn keje, yang dah diamanahkan dan melibatkan ramai orang, dah kira wajib kita pegi buat keje tu, sbb tanak sshkn orang lain. karang sape2 marah kat kita dapat dosa free je.so, tak pegi tarawih kat surau ni bknla perkara besar sgt, selagi dia tak g buat bende2 tak berapa nak best di bulan puasa.

taktau la nape aku nak ckp pasal ni, tp mcm terpanggil2 nak tulis.
orang kata, kalau nak jd alim, warak, mst solat, buat amalan2 sunat2, tadarus quran, g ceramah,pakai jubah longgar2, or apa2la yg berkaitan dgn agama.mmg betul.tak dinafikan.tula yang sebaik2nya.tapi, kalau seseorang tu tak jd perfect mcmtu, tak semestinya dia kufur, or berdosa.and bagi aku, menegakkan agama, bukan dari segi agama semata2.hidup ni as a whole perlu dikira sebagai agama. as in, bkn perkara2 fardhu, beribadat siang malam je yg Allah nampak, yg Allah kira.tp ada jgk benda duniawi yg perlu diambil kira. kalau la solat siang malam, tp lambat bangun g kerja (or class), tuhan senang hati ke?tu lagi la kira berdosa sbb dah membuat dosa sesama manusia. amanah kita sbg pekerja, pelajar(lg2 yg sponsored)sangat besar.tak blh la nak fkr solat 24jam tp kita tak kesah pasal reputasi sbg pelajar muslim. belajar tu wajib.belajar di atas nama islam adalah jihad. taknak la nanti orang kata,kata islam, tapi mundur.aku mmg malu kalau dlm PBL aku ada pelajar melayu yg datang lambat, melayu la yg ponteng.sbb dlm PBL, ada lbh kurang 3 pelajar melayu je, out of 10 or 11.so, nampak sgtla kan kalau ada yg kurang.tp mmg slalu mcmtu la, melayu la yg ponteng, melayu la yang fail.nak tak nak, nama agama sekali yg malu.aku kagum bila yani cerita pasal sesetengah student2 melayu kat uniten(if im not mistaken).dgn tudung litup, pgg quran all the time, tp CGPA takde yg kurang 3.9.mcmtu la islam yg sepatutnya.lengkap.bukan warak beribadah semata, tp cemerlang dunia akhirat.
lastly, aku bukan kata aku ni warak or hebat gle std.dua2 pun tak rasanya.tp cukupla seiringkan agama dan duniawi.lebihkan agama lagi bagus, tp jgn tinggalkan kewajipan duniawi.
orang melayu islam tak boleh jadi malas.ni punca kelemahan dan kenunduran kita!